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		By: cynthia		</title>
		<link>https://www.cynthianewberrymartin.com/2015/03/conflict-68365/#comment-6127</link>

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		<pubDate>Thu, 26 Mar 2015 20:41:41 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://www.cynthianewberrymartin.com/2015/03/conflict-68365/#comment-6122&quot;&gt;Claire Guyton&lt;/a&gt;.

yes, yes, yes, well said.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://www.cynthianewberrymartin.com/2015/03/conflict-68365/#comment-6122">Claire Guyton</a>.</p>
<p>yes, yes, yes, well said.</p>
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		By: cynthia		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[cynthia]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 26 Mar 2015 20:37:42 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://www.cynthianewberrymartin.com/2015/03/conflict-68365/#comment-6123&quot;&gt;ninamishkin&lt;/a&gt;.

Nina, I have to admit I have no memory of reading that post from Dec of 2013, but I found it and reread it. I STILL like it and was glad I reread it. Here&#039;s the link in case anyone else would like it: http://ninamishkin.com/2013/12/06/enjoying-older-age-revisited/. But really here, I was just agreeing with your desire (in your comment from the 24th) to write about what you miss about the law, which was what the law did for you. In any event, no matter how many times I have to be reminded about it, starting law school at 51 takes a lot of guts and reminds me of what my father always said--that I could do anything I set my mind too. But thank heavens, I have already gone to law school.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://www.cynthianewberrymartin.com/2015/03/conflict-68365/#comment-6123">ninamishkin</a>.</p>
<p>Nina, I have to admit I have no memory of reading that post from Dec of 2013, but I found it and reread it. I STILL like it and was glad I reread it. Here&#8217;s the link in case anyone else would like it: <a href="http://ninamishkin.com/2013/12/06/enjoying-older-age-revisited/" rel="nofollow ugc">http://ninamishkin.com/2013/12/06/enjoying-older-age-revisited/</a>. But really here, I was just agreeing with your desire (in your comment from the 24th) to write about what you miss about the law, which was what the law did for you. In any event, no matter how many times I have to be reminded about it, starting law school at 51 takes a lot of guts and reminds me of what my father always said&#8211;that I could do anything I set my mind too. But thank heavens, I have already gone to law school.</p>
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		By: cynthia		</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 26 Mar 2015 20:20:55 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://www.cynthianewberrymartin.com/2015/03/conflict-68365/#comment-6120&quot;&gt;helena sorensen&lt;/a&gt;.

Ha : )]]></description>
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<p>Ha : )</p>
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		By: ninamishkin		</title>
		<link>https://www.cynthianewberrymartin.com/2015/03/conflict-68365/#comment-6124</link>

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		<pubDate>Thu, 26 Mar 2015 02:15:57 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://www.cynthianewberrymartin.com/2015/03/conflict-68365/#comment-6121&quot;&gt;Claire Guyton&lt;/a&gt;.

Applause?  Really? (She asked modestly.) I&#039;m now taking a bow.  

As I mentioned in response to Cynthia&#039;s comment, there is a post, Claire -- if not a story/essay/book -- about going to law school at 51; the post was about a short speech I gave to a division of the Boston Bar Association in 1997 on an assigned topic: &quot;Enjoying Older Age.&quot;  However, my entry into law was not really the fulfillment of some lifelong dream. Absent a rather Puritan upbringing, I would probably have elected the life of a kept woman if an attractive someone of means had elected to keep me.  But you do what you have to do in life. And as I explained in the post, I finally realized that you&#039;re never &quot;too old&quot; to do something because you&#039;re never going to be any younger.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://www.cynthianewberrymartin.com/2015/03/conflict-68365/#comment-6121">Claire Guyton</a>.</p>
<p>Applause?  Really? (She asked modestly.) I&#8217;m now taking a bow.  </p>
<p>As I mentioned in response to Cynthia&#8217;s comment, there is a post, Claire &#8212; if not a story/essay/book &#8212; about going to law school at 51; the post was about a short speech I gave to a division of the Boston Bar Association in 1997 on an assigned topic: &#8220;Enjoying Older Age.&#8221;  However, my entry into law was not really the fulfillment of some lifelong dream. Absent a rather Puritan upbringing, I would probably have elected the life of a kept woman if an attractive someone of means had elected to keep me.  But you do what you have to do in life. And as I explained in the post, I finally realized that you&#8217;re never &#8220;too old&#8221; to do something because you&#8217;re never going to be any younger.</p>
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		By: ninamishkin		</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 26 Mar 2015 02:07:47 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://www.cynthianewberrymartin.com/2015/03/conflict-68365/#comment-6117&quot;&gt;cynthia&lt;/a&gt;.

Actually, Cynthia, I did write a post which summarizes the gist of my going to law school at 51 and what happened as a result.  Moreover, you read it and &quot;liked&quot; it.  The post was about a speech I gave to the Senior Lawyers&#039; Division of the Boston Bar Association in 1997, and was called &quot;&#039;Enjoying Older Age&#039; Revisited.&quot; The post date was December 6, 2013. You can find it again (if so inclined) through the Search function on my blog. The car wreck isn&#039;t in it, though. That wasn&#039;t part of &quot;enjoying older age.&quot; :-)]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://www.cynthianewberrymartin.com/2015/03/conflict-68365/#comment-6117">cynthia</a>.</p>
<p>Actually, Cynthia, I did write a post which summarizes the gist of my going to law school at 51 and what happened as a result.  Moreover, you read it and &#8220;liked&#8221; it.  The post was about a speech I gave to the Senior Lawyers&#8217; Division of the Boston Bar Association in 1997, and was called &#8220;&#8216;Enjoying Older Age&#8217; Revisited.&#8221; The post date was December 6, 2013. You can find it again (if so inclined) through the Search function on my blog. The car wreck isn&#8217;t in it, though. That wasn&#8217;t part of &#8220;enjoying older age.&#8221; 🙂</p>
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		By: Claire Guyton		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Claire Guyton]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 26 Mar 2015 00:02:17 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[I get it. I don&#039;t love to argue, I simply MUST argue. I can&#039;t hear something I think is unjust, or, sometimes just inaccurate, and not reply. Well, I can, I have learned how to manage it in rare cases when it would be extremely foolish or unkind to speak. But mostly I have to open my mouth. But I don&#039;t like it. I have NEVER liked it, especially if I know I&#039;m going to get tension or anger or abuse in response. And when I think I&#039;m just engaging and suddenly there&#039;s tension or anger my stomach drops. Being willing to take on conflict but hating it is an unfortunate mix of traits. Good to know I&#039;m not the only one to suffer from that combo.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I get it. I don&#8217;t love to argue, I simply MUST argue. I can&#8217;t hear something I think is unjust, or, sometimes just inaccurate, and not reply. Well, I can, I have learned how to manage it in rare cases when it would be extremely foolish or unkind to speak. But mostly I have to open my mouth. But I don&#8217;t like it. I have NEVER liked it, especially if I know I&#8217;m going to get tension or anger or abuse in response. And when I think I&#8217;m just engaging and suddenly there&#8217;s tension or anger my stomach drops. Being willing to take on conflict but hating it is an unfortunate mix of traits. Good to know I&#8217;m not the only one to suffer from that combo.</p>
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		By: Claire Guyton		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Claire Guyton]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 25 Mar 2015 23:52:57 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://www.cynthianewberrymartin.com/2015/03/conflict-68365/#comment-6115&quot;&gt;ninamishkin&lt;/a&gt;.

Wow! I officially very much dislike it when people say to me, in response to an anecdote I&#039;ve just relayed, &quot;You should write a story/essay/book about that!&quot; What I always want to say, is, NO, if you find it so fascinating, YOU should write a story/essay/book about that. And yet here I go: I would dearly love to read a memoir about a woman enrolling in law school at 51 as a way to transcend divorce and manage the coming challenges. Anyway, it was lovely to read that comment and to know that someone has lived that story. Applause.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://www.cynthianewberrymartin.com/2015/03/conflict-68365/#comment-6115">ninamishkin</a>.</p>
<p>Wow! I officially very much dislike it when people say to me, in response to an anecdote I&#8217;ve just relayed, &#8220;You should write a story/essay/book about that!&#8221; What I always want to say, is, NO, if you find it so fascinating, YOU should write a story/essay/book about that. And yet here I go: I would dearly love to read a memoir about a woman enrolling in law school at 51 as a way to transcend divorce and manage the coming challenges. Anyway, it was lovely to read that comment and to know that someone has lived that story. Applause.</p>
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		By: helena sorensen		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[helena sorensen]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 25 Mar 2015 18:24:53 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://www.cynthianewberrymartin.com/2015/03/conflict-68365/#comment-6118&quot;&gt;cynthia&lt;/a&gt;.

I am laughing out loud!!!
I too... figuratively speaking...
left the house... at age 10!!!]]></description>
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<p>I am laughing out loud!!!<br />
I too&#8230; figuratively speaking&#8230;<br />
left the house&#8230; at age 10!!!</p>
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		By: helena sorensen		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[helena sorensen]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 25 Mar 2015 18:15:33 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://www.cynthianewberrymartin.com/2015/03/conflict-68365/#comment-6117&quot;&gt;cynthia&lt;/a&gt;.

I believe a standing ovation is in order!  xxx]]></description>
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<p>I believe a standing ovation is in order!  xxx</p>
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		By: cynthia		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[cynthia]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 25 Mar 2015 16:14:05 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://www.cynthianewberrymartin.com/2015/03/conflict-68365/#comment-6116&quot;&gt;helena sorensen&lt;/a&gt;.

Helena, I don&#039;t remember...augh!!!!]]></description>
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<p>Helena, I don&#8217;t remember&#8230;augh!!!!</p>
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